Comments on: Stand By Your Man

By: James

James — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 03:21:18 +0000

Do not get me wrong cheating/adultery is wrong no matter how you look at it.. But divorce is not the right answer either. If a spouse is cheating there is a much larger problem at issue then the obvious..
I mean how many of us truly feel special in our marriage? Far too many marriages are comfortable. But hey why not.. Isn’t that after all the instinctual reaction when you are at ease with someone or something? But rather then telling your Husband or Wife how you feel you just ignore it, maybe put it aside saying to yourself I know he loves me.. But then what happens when someone comes along and gives you what you have so long desired? You guessed it.. Cheating.. So what the answer? Run and get a lawyer? File for divorce? Sure that is what your friends, family, and even your own angered intellect might tell you.. But before you do that, try to put the cheating aside for a moment and have a talk with your partner, explore marriage counseling, and just try to find out why! Remember, the both of you were once madly in love with one another.. Otherwise you would of never of married! So before you throw it away, try to find out why it failed and see if it can be fixed..

By: Marilyn

Marilyn — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 18:12:37 +0000

Poster – I disagree with your ranting on the other wife’s staying with their “philandering husbands”. Each woman’s story is different and to whitewash those who choose to stay and work through the difficult times – well life is not black and white but shades of gray. I hope you personally never have a spouse “cheat on you” as you will know the pain up close and personal. Then I’d like to see if you react to your cheating spouse in the manner you have professed in your post.

By: Ruth Houston

Ruth Houston — Sat, 27 Jun 2009 01:40:56 +0000

Betrayed wives like Jenny Sanford are faced with the difficult task of trying to decide whether or not to stay with a husband and give him a second chance. It is not an easy decision to make. Some leave. Others choose to stay for some of the reasons listed here http://bit.ly/18PCI1. Many factors need to be taken into consideration before a final decision is made, including the circumstances of the infidelity, and the attitude of the cheating husband’s about the affair. Two of the major obstacles facing a wife who decides to stay are mentioned here http://bit.ly/EdyTe According to most marriage and family counselors, it takes at least 2 years to fully recover from the trauma of the affair. Whether a wife decide to stay in the marriage or get a divorce, either decision will present its own unique challenges, sometimes for many years to come.