In the eye of the beholder


Tyler Murphy

What is it about sex that makes some people take up arms? Is the subject so taboo? Many local people seem to think so and have expressed many opinions lately about Lovejoy’s Boutique opening up in Norwich.

I don’t get it, I can’t walk from my office to the cafe for a cup of coffee without having 10 different sexually enticing advertisements that objectify woman or men, flung at me( and if you’ve ever seen a commercial you know what I’m talking about.) Let me offer an example; remember the action figures when we were a kid, GI Joe and the gang? Ever compared a toy from 10 years ago to a toy today? Joe must have taken more drugs than a baseball player to get that jacked and it goes the same for nearly everything else. Someone somewhere figured out sex sells and a lot of sex sells more. The problem is most people don’t want to know about it.

Magazines, video, novelty gifts were all available before in our county. Between the Internet, TV and the back rooms of a few local businesses, we had just about everything even before the adult store moved in. Believe me I’m sure the people who crave such things knew were to get them. (Those people, you hate to hear it, are most normal people).

The new boutique however sits in large sight for all to see, and that’s the real issue isn’t it? Just like the power lines those corporate warlords from NYRI are trying to shove down our throats, the main concern for many is how it will look. How we look is who we will become in the eyes of a stranger. For instance new business owners, families looking for a nice place to raise children, even folks passing by that might be looking for a night’s rest. The greatest set of strange eyes to capture our home scene will be our children. Any influences such things may have will affect them the most. People who say “this isn’t a big deal get over it, it’s just porn, were all adults.” … well maybe you’re right but what’s the harm in considering the negative possibilities?

That all being said, I personally find little harm in this new outlet. Unlike the power lines, this shop will appear as it is perceived. Different people will see it differently based on their own personal choices and beliefs. The owner of the business made a good point to me that still creeps me out. There is more scrutiny at an adult shop than the alternative venues in Chenango. You’ll need an ID and you need to show up in person. Internet exposures only take a click and a jump. TV and phone services take maybe a credit card and any name over 18, the callers or not.

Most importantly we all as adults have the right to become sex-crazed porn addicts or worse if we want to, but we also have the responsibility to insulate our choices from those not capable of handling them. Given the alternative options of acquiring such material and taking into account the convenience to consenting adults of having a store, I see no evil in it and just maybe a little bit of fun.